Para os meus seguidores aqui do blog, eu me orgulho em anunciar que a versão em inglês do meu livro “Quem disse que millennials são todos iguais” está prestes a ser publicada nos formatos digital e de capa comum da página Amazon.com. E pelo apreço que tenho a vocês, aqui eu apresento em primeira mão um fragmento original da nova versão. E se você é expert ou não em inglês, aqui está uma oportunidade para ativar o botão do seu cérebro bilíngue. Boa leitura.
The role of our belief system
When I listen to the stereotypes about our generation, I instantly become uncredulous. No, we are nothing of this! I study inside my own head and came to the conclusion that nothing I had just heard was the truth.
In fact, what I had just done was miss an opportunity to question. Yes, I had to admit it. This new idea did not flatter me, and did not paint the prospect of me being part of a lazy generation, entitled or who does not know how to work. Instead, I did not like to hear that, and my ego immediately set out to find ways to bury those arguments so deeply that I would forget all that.
From this perspective, a belief system can really disrupt our ability to question, reflect, and bring about positive change.
Lately, I’ve been reflecting on my belief system around money, success, and personal power. The things I discovered made me extremely uncomfortable. I have read books of businessmen, personal finance gurus, and blatantly pro-capitalist investors.
It is not the points where I disagree with what I read that provoked anxiety and threw me into resistance. It is the wisdom and common sense of some of these authors that I cannot deny. It is the clear vision, the integrity and the admirable determination in their words that made me take a second serious look at how I usually judge people and how I evaluate them.
For our generation, who can access the internet in less than a second, from anywhere, at any time, means that if our belief systems suffer from large holes that drag our quality of life is our fault and no one else’s.
That’s why I’m continually covering my head with readings on personal finance, investment, marketing, etc., it makes me uncomfortable. Before that, I’ve talked to myself for years that I was not interested in money and that I hate marketing.
But, what if I were someone who ate at McDonald’s every day and refused to exercise, what would happen? If I disregarded all the information about good nutrition, fitness tools, it would be clear that even if I was not interested in how my body worked and how to care for it, I could transform my whole life if I chose to care.
In my childhood, it could be certain that my options were obviously limited. But, today I have choices. Every day, we can decide on what we want to interest ourselves. And I think as I did, your interest on topics that make you more uncomfortable and challenge your belief systems more aggressively are the ones you need to learn more about.
It’s not easy. But it can be interesting and even fun.
Try it now. Think of an area of knowledge that makes you uncomfortable, and then google some good books that will begin to teach you the basics on this same topic. If it is possible for you, order a book by Amazon on the same topic and resolve to read it throughout the process. Remember, if you feel uncomfortable, this is a sign that you are exactly where you need to be.
One of the greatest lessons my life taught me was that we are all defined by what we believe. Nothing in this world has the power to paralyze or empower us as much as one of our beliefs is capable of doing. In that line, false and limiting beliefs have the ability to reduce someone to feel they are not worthy or capable.
Nowadays, I refuse to let anything interfere with my belief system. I know my beliefs are the most important factor in determining the direction in which my life is headed. In the past, my priorities and beliefs were exactly the same. But now I can discern between what is right and wrong better than ever. Now, all I believe is that by learning more I’m on the right track.
Beliefs are like the steering wheel, the brakes and the accelerator in a car. They drive your vehicle in any direction you choose and they also have the ability to propel you forward and decrease it. So, given all the features that your steering wheel, brake and accelerator (your beliefs) are responsible for, does it make sense to check without ceasing if everything is working the way it should be? Would not it be absolutely silly, otherwise? Without regular inspections, how will you have peace of mind?
We regularly evaluate all aspects of our health, wealth and happiness. Why ignore the factor that presides and determines in all our decisions? It is naive, ignorant and downright stupid to neglect the fact that, just like everything else in life, our beliefs also require regular maintenance. Just because it was working well before does not mean it will always be like this.
Most beliefs are not consistent because they emerge independently and may or may not be related to one another. Only until we test our beliefs we can dictate what is true or false. But without adequate testing, these results are unreachable. Even the most truly conscious intellect will inevitably have many imprecise and contradictory beliefs. That is the nature of how they evolve.
The desire to align beliefs with reality is a fairly new trend. Since it resembles the world view that there is a common world we can see, it becomes natural to acquire a system of faith based on fact. However, it is not as if we had nothing worth believing before science. Consistency is a modern preference. Any kind of belief system can maintain consistency within itself, and generate value for those who carry them.
In addition, the feeling of a common world is slowly deteriorating. Socially, as we become more tolerant of others, we are just beginning to accept the fact that we are all different.
Scientifically, this happens when we learn more about the ephemeral perspectives, the unattainability of information, and the probabilistic nature of the indeterminate universe. All this leads to a single conclusion: there is no single world. There is only faith in a vision. There is only the culmination of all our points of view, and this is how it happened all the time.
Ultimately, belief systems form paradigms. Paradigms, in turn, form structures with consequences. And these consequences are responsible to make our belief system valuable. And since we have the ability to believe in everything we desire, we are free to believe in all that is of value to us. Not only that, we can also share these paradigms. All are free.
Therefore, the message in this chapter is based on the idea that beliefs do not need to be consistent or constrained in any way. We are free to believe in anything. But given this freedom, what should we believe in? Why not believe in everything?
Beliefs shape who we are, and we have the ability to be multifaceted. But beware, logical elimination can leave you with nothing, like a puzzle ending in a contradiction.
If we believe and share multiple beliefs, we can all have what we want and get along. Always being right is not difficult, it is impossible. This is what I believe in.
So, should we try to make our beliefs consistent?
We tried it many times, and this could even be convenient, especially when there are those who seek control. But consensus will never happen. As long as we believe there is a right, we will fight non-stop with those who come to believe in something greater. They may be our neighbors, or they may be in the Middle East. No matter where, but one thing is certain:
As long as there is more than one person, there will always be someone who believes in something else.